No, I agree. Whatever the reason comes down to, it's monstrous, hating someone who's out and struggling on your behalf. I mean- yeah, fear's powerful stuff. But that's no excuse for not bothering to wonder why you're afraid, or even think of how it's making you behave.

[Hopefully that's an explanation that's a little more eloquent, and less reliant upon shared life experiences. Wow, he's going to feel like an ass for awhile over that.]